Confessions of a Former Magazine Editor

(All content is fictional, any resemblance to real life characters is purely intentional).

When I was single, working a 60-hour week, and paying my own way, nobody cared what I did for a living. “Why aren’t you married?” was more of a concern. Is there ever a reason for the fortunate/unfortunate status of singledom? I never dared to answer back with: why are you unhappily married?

The word “magazine” stirred as much interest as the word manicure. “Is it that FREE magazine we get in the mail?” Claudia Souza, one of the Palm Island ladies would ask, pretending not to know the magazine and that she hadn’t been introduced to me a hundred times before. That’s because she hadn’t made it on our annual Best Dressed list, and her arch rival Veronica Perez, also a Realtor, had.

The Palm Island husbands would interrogate me about our number of ads and if the magazine was making any money. Away from their wives, the subject would take a different turn, often to the contact information for our front cover model. Whenever I was introduced to someone as the editor of Palm Island Magazine, I would be greeted with a facial expression that toggled between, “So what?” to “What can she do for me?”

Nobody knew that unlike editor-in-chief, Anna Wintour of Vogue Magazine, who has her assistants traumatized if the temperature of her afternoon extra-hot latte isn’t right, editor-in-chief of Palm Island Magazine, was Girl Friday and the Tea Lady. This devil, wore Forever 21.

Nobody wanted to know about my 5 a.m., photo-shoots. Or that if the Marchesa gowns that I’d borrowed from Neiman Marcus for the shoot weren’t returned (of course by me) the following day I’d turn into an eggplant. No one wanted to know, what it was like to deal with a stroppy model that would show up, to a photo-shoot two hours late. Looking nothing like her comp card, with a distracting twitch and a crater size dimple on her left chin, when she smiled.

No one wanted to know how on the spot, the shoot would change, with the existing clothes we’d pulled, from the Floating Fairy concept, to a Dark Angel story, and not a grin in sight. There were compensations, of course, like knowing an anorexic model can have cellulite but they were few and far between.

Nobody got to hear about my Cuban, Wanna Be Mobster, publisher that would sell his entire family for a ¼ page ad. His father a real mobster, who I was told wears a head to toe fur coat a la 80s, when up North, had spent a considerable amount of time in jail, for one of the most legitimate crimes: tax evasion.

Wanna Be Mobster, was one of three children that his father had with his Miami mistress. She had spent her entire life being, the other woman. She had a three-bedroom, two-bathroom house, a beat up Louis Vuitton purse, and an old jaguar to show for it. The electric iron fence to her Little Havana home had the mobster’s initials carved in scroll on it. Territorial initials on a front gate, in Little Havana, to me meant, illegitimate money.

Mini-Mobster didn’t believe in paying for an editorial team. The only reason he was paying me, was for me to find that team. So, I recruited my entire network of friends, which meant my writing group. For a while it was just like our writing club but in print, but how could I expect stories to be handed in on time if nobody was getting paid? I eventually persuaded Mini-Mobster that we’d have no articles for next month, if he didn’t pay up. With the little money the writers were getting, they all avoided me when the deadlines were approaching, (because they were working on other freelance work that was worth their while). One writer had five grandmothers die within a span of six months. I heard all the lines, the sob stories and the lame excuses.

If that wasn’t enough, there were the relentless Public Relations reps to deal with. Kristy Morales, the uptight PR manager at Saks Fifth Avenue who I had only seen in leopard print (and who wore Cavalli only because she was getting an employee discount) should stop writing press releases and start doing yoga. Public Relations reps stop pestering everyone about your clients. And where are they when you actually want something from them, like a correct photo-caption? They’re in Mexico, badgering someone else, about one of their other clients.

What Morales failed to write on her press releases, was that some innocent buyer was paying thousands of dollars for a dress that had probably been worn by countless, iPod dazed models during 10-hour long magazine photo-shoots. And just because they’re thin doesn’t mean they don’t sweat.

For our Vintage Looks fashion spread, our model didn’t fit into any of the size-four sample clothes. Not even with the help of the entire crew. She was more like a size 14 and had gained a few pounds since her last photo comps that had made her look like a goddess. The situation was beyond Photoshop and we were on deadline. Since my Wanna Be Mobster, publisher refused to pay for models, we’d use the free “fresh” faces from the agencies. Some of those faces being more haggard than fresh. So I’d pick the best from the bottom of the barrel. Then the art team would airbrush them until they no longer looked like Kate Adie and looked more like Kate Moss. In this case, we ditched the Vintage Looks concept. I called in Mauricio The Miracle Maker; the make-up artist responsible for the daily transformation of Univision’s evening anchor, plain Jenny, into the ravishing starlet, Jennifer Rodrigo. We did the entire shoot from the neck up, and ended up with a six-page Spring Beauty Shades. I survived.

It was a different story when someone wanted to be in the magazine. I would be invited out to a five-course dinner at The Ritz-Carlton, given use of a private yacht, and have a jewelry line named after me. They needn’t have bothered. We were desperate for Palm Island stories. Being from Little Havana, and still feeling like the “help”, my publisher was happy just to be rubbing shoulders with the Jet Set crowd. When pointing out current or potential advertisers to me at events, he would tell me what car they drive, who they know and an up to date list of their financial assets, that he had told me a hundred times before, at all the other events.

When he found out that our automotive writer, got to drive a new car every week, because he was writing about them, he went ballistic. He decided that I should fire him, so that he could get to drive the cars himself. “Perks like this are for us, not writers!” he yelled. When I told him that he was “writing” a column for driving the cars, he told me to find an intern (free writer), to write the column, with the information from the Internet, without driving the car. When I refused to fire the writer, he did it himself. This was the way things were done in the world of, the Mini-Mobster.

Even though I didn’t live in one of the mansions on Palm Island, I had to look like I did. Frankly if it wasn’t for my bargain buys at Loehmann’s, I don’t think I would have carried it off. I lived on the other side of the tracks, where the avant-garde art galleries, trendy wine bars and roaming crack heads were. As for the affluent readers of Palm Island Magazine, I could almost hear them thinking “Poor little, career girl, surely there must be more to life than thinking about a magazine that everyone tosses away, after looking at the pictures.”

With dark circles under my eyes, clutching onto my cocktail at events, I scoured for potential Palm Island stories. My diet consisted of caffeine and cigarettes or cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. The red crosses that marked my calendar; reminders of all the events I had to attend; looked like the corrections made by a strict school teacher on a bad essay. It also reminded me that I was generally running out of time.

The “ladies that lunch” crew that I met at various social events, would tell me “You’re looking so thin,” and that; “A career is not everything,” and most importantly, “You should hurry up and get married because you might miss the boat.” The way I interpreted that was, “I’ve got a yacht, how come you can’t get on a ferry?” They didn’t know that I felt like I had missed the dinghy. A part of me wanted to be like them, to spend a mortgage payment on a handbag, to have a personal masseuse and not worry about my bills and a part of me felt proud that I was doing something I loved, and that I did it so well, that the ladies that had caught the yacht, vied to be in Palm Island Magazine, where I was the ship’s captain.

No-one had any interest in reading the articles in the magazine, unless, they were in it. In which case they would have it custom mounted and framed in dark mahogany and hung in their hall of fame at home, for all their friends (and fellow readers of Palm Island Magazine) to see. A note to all aspiring editors: give your readers plenty of photos to look at and party photos where they might spot someone they know (that probably doesn’t know them). The rest can be written in Greek. Nobody’s going to read it.

Unless, there is a typo in it. Then all hell breaks loose. You’re bombarded with emails with subject headers such as “You’re an idiot.” You have to officially apologize via print, email and in person to the entire Gonzales, family for having placed a Z and not an S at the end of their name. You also have to reiterate to the magazine readership that they are by no way related to, or have had any relationship with the notorious Gonzalez family (from Hialeah) spelled with a Z. If all of that wasn’t enough, you’ll be forced by your Wanna Be Mobster publisher, to write a six-page article (with photos) about the Gonzales family business: concrete blocks. If you don’t, you may lose their circle of influential potential advertisers from the Miami Builders Society.

I don’t know what it’s like at Vogue or The New York Times, but in my world, advertising, meant editorial coverage. It didn’t matter whether it was an ad for pest control or a funeral parlor, it would end up as a four-page editorial in Palm Island Magazine. All I had to do as an editor was to come up with a catchy title and an angle that’s going to fit our readership. Something like Mighty Mansion Mice Or Diggin’ Designer Caskets? It was that easy.

It must have been a fluke getting that job. In Miami, unless your name is Ana Maria, you grew up in Coral Gables and went to UM, nobody’s going to hire you. I don’t blame them. They want to keep things in the family. After all who’s going to invite a British Iranian to a Quinceanera? The only other way past this hurdle is to have a double barrel name, with a Von in the middle, that gives the impression of European aristocracy, and even then, it needs to be attached to serious money or contacts.
Even though you’re an editor, you’ve got to be bankable asset for bringing in an advertising revenue that will keep your employer afloat long enough to pay your salary, or wages which I prefer to call it.

Salary is for a proper job that comes with benefits such as health insurance, 401K, vacation time and a human resources department there to protect you from fraud or abuse from your publisher. Wages is what the rest of us got.

Unless, you’re married to Alfredo De Santana. If you’re married to De Santana you can get any job in Miami. But then if you’re married to him, it’s unlikely you’ll need a job.

Since I had no ties to Coral Gables, my last name was Azadi not Bacardi, my family had not fled Cuba in the 1960s, and I had only seen Alfredo De Santana from a distance of 500 km at an event, I didn’t fall into any of these categories.

Now that I’m married and figuring out what I want to do next everyone wants to know what I do for a living. People I meet at cocktail parties are now dying to know about my career. It’s the first thing they ask me. They even ask if I have a business card. I remember all the times that I’ve shoved my business card into someone’s hand and they’ve paid no attention to it. They’re now fascinated by my excruciatingly embarrassing details of, what I do all day.

Since I’ve stopped smoking, I have an appetite of a wild boar. I could tell them that I spend most of my “spare” time eating. I now refer to Palm Island Magazine for all the recipes that I never had the time to prepare. And just in case my 5ft 2in stature might not be getting all the nutrients my body needs; I’m supplementing my diet with multi-vitamins.

Should I tell them that I wake at noon, stare into space for most of the day and talk on the phone to my other non-working girlfriends? As I manage to force the words out and I tell them that, “I’m not working … right now,” I can almost hear them thinking, “Poor little, career-less girl.”

THE END
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Ivy League?

LUNCH AT THE IVY ON ROBERTSON BLVD.


The Most Photographed White Picket Fence in the World


Maybe I’ve become wiser, but I’m not as tickled by “it” places as I used to be. OK, so the peeling paint on the white picket fence is quaint, and I live for café culture which rarely exists in the US let alone in LA, but I've become remarkably astute at sensing hype.

If you want to be part of the lunch scene at The Ivy on a beautiful summer day and catch a glimpse of a celebrity or two (which I didn't), be prepared for mediocre food and a long wait - much like The Cheesefake Factory, without those annoying vibrating buzzers but a lot steeper on your pocket.

In my 20’s I gave into all forms of hype. I dressed in the most uncomfortable clothes, waited in line and dined in the latest outrageously, overpriced places, because it “had” to be done. Now that I’m in my 30’s I’d like to think I’m more comfortable in my own skin and have more confidence to evaluate my dining destinations based on the experience as a whole.

Being a former Londoner I probably was setting myself up by ordering the plate of Seafood Fish and Chips that arrived on a huge Mexican style platter. Perhaps it’s a Californian twist on fish and chips, and to be fair it tasted OK, but filling up a huge plate with lettuce (or was it cabbage garnish) and condiments, seems like false advertising.

The waiters were polite, and rushed around wearing white Levi’s, white sneakers with pink shirts and Hawaiian print ties. The décor was a mix of French Provencal mixed in with The Little House on the Prairie and the walls, were definitely Tuscan inspired Stucco. There wasn't a clear sense of identity, which also reflected on the menu. Although the general attraction of dining there is the ambiance, on that day, everyone was loud including the baby in the stroller a few tables away.

The only thing I loved about The Ivy was the antique silver teapots on each table, used as vases, and filled with a blooming, handpicked style mishmash of multi-colored roses and mint – an unexpected touch.

For Neda

Here's one of my images from my exhibition titled Freedom, Azadi, Libertdad. The series of images were exhibited in Miami as part of Amnesty International's "Stop Violence Against Women".

This self-portrait is titled: I Do Exist.

In memory of Neda, the young girl who was killed in Tehran, fighting for Freedom. Your voice will never be silenced.

Fashion and Politics

Who said fashion doesn't effect politics? I'm wearing black today as a sign of mourning for the brave protesters killed in Iran and so are hundreds and thousands of other people. Although I'm many miles away, it's my way of showing support for their fight for freedom.

Did you know Azadi means Freedom?

Warning: if you find the dress too revealing, look away.

FREEDOM FOR FASHION

Take Cover

Although summer time is all about uncovering, I've found the perfect beach cover-up. I've been looking for something that dries easy and that I can wear over my bikini without feeling like a complete idiot. Most cover-ups don’t cover much. I choose to buy mine in a bright fuchsia color that reminds me of the blooming bourgainvilleas all over Laguna Beach.

When the sun sets, this cover-up can be easily transformed into a cute tunic top and worn with a short denim skirt or leggings.

Cotton cover-up with silver embroidery, $24.50 available at Old Navy.

Warning: you may be tempted to buy this in more than one color.

The Best Red Lipsticks - Not for Wallflowers

There's nothing like a fabulous red lipstick to bring out your inner femme fatale.

Note: Wallflowers may experience anxiety followed by chronic attention. If worn daily, it could lead to addiction.

Here's some of my favorites:

1) Audace Allure by Chanel, $30.

2) Red Sinner by Lipstick Queen, $18.


3) Gala 21, Rouge G by Guerlain $45.


4) Cerise by Chantecaille, $28.


5) Rich Red Signature by Estee Lauder, $19.50

Light and Heavy? It's Possible

What a dichotomy. I can't believe how a fragrance that's inspired by Kodho Wood; the ancient Japanese art of incense appreciation, can be dramatic and fresh at the same time.

As I inhale it on my wrist, there is a juxtaposition that takes place in my mind. I drift back to a home I once entered in London, where a similar unforgettable scent of rich oud (also a wood incense) filled the opulently furnished rooms with gold leaf ceilings. In the same breath I'm transported to the scent of delicate water lilies (one of my favorite flowers) and the freshest lotus blossom drifting on crystal clear water. The contrasting combination is simply divine.

Warning: you'll be hooked.

Lotus Blossom & Water Lily cologne by Jo Malone, 100ml, $100.

Author Gina Nahai is Coming to Newport Beach!

She captivated me with Moonlight on the Avenue of Faith and now I can't wait to start reading Caspian Rain.

There should be more events like this in OC...Book lovers, let's make sure there are.


Click on image to enlarge. Mark your calendars!

In The Red - Must Have Red Lipsticks

Click on image to read. As seen in Coast Magazine April 2009.

ROB|B and O.P.I. Have Nailed It

I’ve known a few nail biters (and former nail biters, like my sister) and let me tell you it’s not a pretty sight. If you or anyone you know wants to break free from this bad habit, there's hope in the form of nail rehab:)

ROB|B the first OPI Concept Salon in the world (which happens to be my favorite brand of nail polish) has just introduced its Nail Biter Program, custom designed for each individual with a combination of treatment series and a personalized home maintenance program (which I’m sure does not include wearing mittens). The aim is to get nails from torn to tempting.

ROB|B is located at 12246 Ventura Blvd., Studio City, CA 91604. Visit www.robbsalon.com. The pretty nail color above is Suzi and Life Guard.

Remembering Azita

. Big hazel eyes that seemed like they carried with them the burden of the entire world.

. The silver bracelet I gave her on her birthday and how it shined on her tiny wrist.

. Her thoughtful cards, always with a picture of a fish or a mermaid, symbols of our Piscean ways.

. The blue “mosaic” Miss Selfridge skirt she bought me, that I still wear.

. Waking up at her house and hearing the news of Princess Diana’s death. “They killed her,” she said as we cried. We laughed about our love of conspiracy theories and said it must be an Iranian thing.

. The letter she wrote telling me, “I’m finally Mrs. D!”

. The lizard in my shower and how she rushed in, when she heard me scream.

. The black & white polka dot Kookai dress she wore to Circa and how happy she looked that night.

. Her visit to Miami; the palm trees reminded her of Ahvaz.

. The clear shoes episode. How I was mad at her for “copying” me by buying the same pair of shoes as me and then wearing them to Andy’s concert (when I had specifically asked her not to). She decided to wear them anyway. “So What? It looked good with my dress,” she explained. I’m glad she did. That’s how I’ll remember her defiant; in her red satin dress and clear shoes.

I’m sure she’s up there wearing the most heavenly pair of shoes.


Polka dot dress by Oli
Silver cuff by Banana Republic
Lizard skin clutch by Bottega Veneta
Red satin dress by Oasis
Silver clear shoes by Manolo Blahnik

Dry Your Hair Like A Pro

My Conair hairdryer is exactly that: an unsteady con of air. I’m finding it difficult to spend 2 hours drying my long hair (that’s now grown past my shoulders). My con-artist mediocre hairdryer is no longer sufficient. What do you do when you’re in trouble? You turn to a pro.

I've found the Ferrari of hairdryers ... called the Evolution. I'll let you the verdict know when it arrives. It's a shame it doesn't come in a shiny red.

T3 Tourmaline Bespoke Labs Evolution Hair Dryer.

At $300 I hope I’m worth it ☺

Slippers with Style

Marabou? Yes. Monkey? No.
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but as far back as I remember slippers were meant to be desirable. Remember Cinderella?
So why is it, that finding stylish slippers to wear at home (on my cold stone floors) has become an ongoing quest? I don’t want a pig snout on my toes nor do I want an elephant trunk. In fact I don’t want anything that looks like a cartoon character anywhere near my feet. I’m not interested in Uggs (I’m not in a snow storm) and I don’t want grandma slippers either.
Being in heels all day, I’d like to give my feet a rest when I’m at home but that doesn’t mean all sense of style and reason has to go out the door. So after extensive research, I’ve come up with the perfect pair of cute slippers. Divas can now answer the doorbell without embarrasment.






"Do" slippers available at www.jilliewillie.com
Price $39.
10/10 Heels

Sail Away, Sail Away, Sail Away

Pink and orange sailboats, against the backdrop of a beige ocean. Dreamy and delightful dress by Alexis Mabille. Couture takes us to faraway places where everything is possible...


11/10 heels.
Photo from NYT.

The Demise of Tory Burch at Desert Island

DON'T be tempted to buy these shoes. (Unless you’re not fazed by seeing them on everyone). Rating 2/10 heels.


Am I the only person that still has the will to window shop? Big bad words like credit crunch, debt and deficit are taking their toll on me too. Even NPR’s saying it. I had to get away from the ugly truth. I needed to relax. It was time to head to The Temple, Fashion Island.

I should have known there was something wrong when I found a parking spot right in front of the exit sign. My optimistic nature saw it as a sign of good things to come; perhaps I’d find the shoes I’d been looking for. And then I walked past R & D, which usually has a hungry crowd of people waiting in line for a table. Only today the hostess stood by the door looking at her nails. Fashion Island? It was more like Desert Island. Where was everybody?

My first stop was at Neiman Marcus. I was approached by no less than 50 eager, smiley faced, sales assistants. They all looked like they hadn’t caught a fish in weeks. I tried dodging the approaching sales assistants and started walking fast in a zigzag line and forgot why I had gone there in the first place: oh yes, shoes I remembered. Five of them commented on my coat and how wonderful it looked on me. I’ve been wearing this same coat for a year now, and never before had it received such rave reviews. Times must be hard.

I tried on a pair of Tory Burch shoes, I know, its got that big fat gold buckle with her initials on the front, but I thought I’d try it on anyway. I’m looking for a pair of everyday shoes that are comfortable, and that means it still has to be fabulous. The price was an issue but I was more concerned with displaying a visible logo in front of my toes. This is no time to be ostentatious. It’s all about being somber chic not flashy chic. Plus, hadn’t I seem them on everyone?

I disappointed yet another sales person as I told her they were not right. She told me they looked fabulous and that I was making a big mistake. Big mistake or not, I thanked her and walked away. As I was walking out of the store, I held the door open for a pretty blond girl who was walking in. I happened to look down at her shoes and lo and behold, she was wearing a pair of Tory Burch shoes. When it comes to fashion (and everything else in life) don't give in to pushy people. That’s it. I’m done with her, Burch I mean.

Meanwhile, I’ll keep looking.

Window Shopping at OC Intermix

Intermix drives me gaga. Who's the buyer? I'd love to know. If it wasn't for a small thing such as a price tag getting in the way, I could walk away with everything they have in the store.

From the one on Collins Avenue in Miami with its caftans and beach style to the hip styles and designers of the one in South Coast Plaza, its refreshing to walk in to a store where every item has been handpicked.

Rating: 10/10 heels.

Vintage inspired chiffon scarf blouse by Vera Wang Lavender Label looks so much better in person than in this photo. Gorgeous but overpriced at $285 for a tiny piece of chiffon. I'm off to Jo Ann's.

Recession Pick Me Ups

I don’t know about you but all this talk of doom and gloom makes me want to go out and shop. Right now I'm all about wedges.

Here’s are my Top 3 Recession Pick Me Ups (they’ll really add a few inches).

Jimmy Choo
Open-Toe Espadrilles perfect to shop in.
$375


Christian Louboutin Miss Box Wedges great shoes to work in, if you've got a job.
$695


Valentino Wedge Sandals add a sunny disposition to our grey depression days...
$895

Stale economy or not I'll doubt we'll see these shoes on the sale rack and if we do, they'll be in a size 10!

Lucky for us, they're all available in all sizes right now at Saks Fifth Avenue.

OC Life Magazine Features Moi

I know, I look very serious...but fashion is not to be taken lightly. Check out the rest of the magazine at www.oclifemagazine.com.